The importance of the dialogue

Usually, since childhood, we are accustomed to thinking that certain things cannot be said or even thought. To then find ourselves deviated adults precisely because we have suffocated the impulse to dialogue that is typical of the human being.

Dialogue and free manifestations of the spirit must not be repressed but exalted. Education lies in being able to get them out in such a way that they have universal value in the society of which we are a part.
Do not suffocate but integrate. Do not exclude but include.

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Goodwill, again.

Many people claim that what we think about ourselves matters the most. But what matters the most is goodwill towards others, not only friends but even enemies.
This doesn’t mean others’ bad habits must enslave you. But it would be best to care about what matters in their life according to your possibilities. And caring about oneself too.

The meaningless crisis

I’m going through a period where everything seems meaningless. What can we hold on to when life has no meaning? Many people find meaning in family, society, religion, science, and everything that can satisfy them personally. But personal and historical facts force me to think life has no meaning. And even though I have everything I need, this is a harsh personal situation.

Even the idea of God that in the past seemed to give me so much relief now seems like God, or it doesn’t exist or doesn’t care. Too many wrong things in the history of humanity have happened and are happening today. Neither the word of Jesus Christ, about unconditional love, which I strongly believed in the past, now seem so fake to me.

The personal relationships with people and beloved ones where I thought I could find meaning feel empty, fake and moved by interests.

How can I survive this period of meaningless crisis? I think I have no solution. Just survive for the sake of living. By my side, I will try to build meaningful connections and be authentic. This is all I can and want to do. Even though this means building anything at all.

Golden rules

Admiring a person only because they are famous is mental.
Respecting a person only because they say morally correct sentences is naive.
Following a person only because they are rich is for pimps.

Instead:

Admire people that love without consideration.
Please be sure to respect people whose acts are coherent with moral evaluations.
Follow people that inspire you to grow as a better person.

Kindly yourselves

Inside ourselves, there are demons, the crazy ones. What happens if you unleash them?

Unleashing out demons means letting yourself be your authentic self.

Are you, who are so strong to speak loud against your neighbour, able to reveal publicly who you really are without masks?

Please, explicit yourself. Don’t be afraid or do you wanna arrive to the death unprepared?

Without facing the world for who we are there is no growth.

Are you strong enough to be the authentic self and at the same time be kind?

Or will you lose yourself in the river of eternity?

And remember, being yourself kindly amount other people is the very best satisfaction one can ever feel.

For the sake of Love

I’m able to switch between different points of view. This makes me a smart man. But in order to be wise, I need to use this capacity for noble purposes.

Wise people would build greatness not only about themselves but even about the world where they live.

They look at the general picture. They don’t care only about themselves but they are really able to stay in the shoes of others and make decisions in such a way properly.

Those who care only about their selfish interests are neither wise nor deserve a good life. These people are doomed to a miserable life at least until they don’t change their attitude toward life and the world in general.

Because a life without feeling love is always a miserable life, even though you are the richest man in the world.

But is this affirmation true? How can we know I’m saying the truth. Of course, this is only a point of view.

But as my personal preference, I prefer people led by love rather than interests. And love has no limit nor boundaries.

Exploring our relationship with love is the most interesting task ever. I love people, and as one of my preferred novels said (the Gospel): “love your enemies”, so I try to love even them.

As always Jesus Christ said: “love is the unique commandment”. And if you love you are even willing to help others and sometimes, if the situation requires it, able to sacrifice yourself.

But what if we don’t feel the love?

In this case, always the Gospel says that God will change our hearts, and It will donate us a new one. So it’s a path of transformation. We have to give up everything for the rule of love, and we will be led into a path of transformation that lasts all eternity because learning to love has no end.

We should choose if we want to engage on a path of transformation towards love only for sake of love or perish on a path of hate, envy and other bad feelings.

Love is freedom, so the only commandment we have is to follow our natural attitude which is to improve for the sake of love.

And at the last, but not least love opens the doors of paradise, here on earth. Even if you don’t receive material benefits from love, you will receive something more important: the sacred spirit. And being in the heart of our creator is the best gift we could ever receive.

Just love, that’s enough. But always ask yourself if your love is real love or a stupid, arrogant thought to deserve paradise even when we are the most miserable people in the world.

Being with our feet on the ground

I have always dreamed about meaningful relationships but now know those relationships are nothing without boundaries.

When you set up a deep connection with someone, if boundaries are not set up correctly, the just-made relationship will not work out.

Often these boundaries are not willingly respected so it’s our responsibility to keep them up and working.

And as long as you desire your boundaries should be respected so you have to respect others’ boundaries.

This topic is controversial because keeping the correct level of boundaries is often a subjective way of thinking.

So respect and demand respect, there is no other way to acquire deep connections and meaningful relationships.

What if building meaningful relationships is not possible or not useful?

Sometimes we feel as if our relationships aren’t fulfilling. So in this case what we can base our life on? Many people refuge in God, money, career, power, a sense of superiority, or unkindness. But I think, think these “things” aren’t the answer. I think the answer is to try another way to build our relationship because dissatisfaction is a sign that we are doing something wrong. We shouldn’t give up, there is always another way to accomplish the same goal. And another important thing is that we should care about one of the more important relationships we have, such as ourselves.

So, try harder or let it go, it depends, but do not give up. Because better relationships are what we need, it’s what the world needs.

Some of my virtues

I’m not flawless. Sometimes, I have been selfish, for example. But I have one important virtue: I look for higher purposes and I want my life to be led by them. One of them is improving the world by building meaningful and deep connections and relationships.

But why do I want to improve the world? Because I care about people in general, and this is another of my virtue too.

Building deep relationships can be difficult, I wrote a lot about this topic here. But imagine a world where everyone tries to build sincere and honest relationships. It could solve a lot of problems. Unfortunately, there is always the bad will. This makes this kind of relationship even harder to build. But this could be healing stuff for people that need it.

But I want to think positively, and even with the hardest people I would try to build them. Naturally, with adequate prioritization. After all, I want healing relationships even with myself. This means that I have to care about my wellness too. Mine and every person that helped me.

What could make me a happy and successful person?

What makes me happy is building mindful and deep relationships. So, even though having money to pay your bills is, however, important, I think having a job that lets me do this is equally important.

I think success is even an important part of our life but I think that success is not what people usually think success is.

Success is not money or fame. Success is to have a meaningful life. If you earn money in spite of the community or people and exploit them and you aren’t contributing in any way to improve society then, you can have all the money and fame in this world, but you aren’t a successful person at all. And surely, you aren’t conducting a meaningful life. Instead, your life is pretty miserable, because it is without a real and edifying purpose.

So, for instance, the ability to succeed lies in the ability to build strong and deep connections and relationships. And this leads me to have a purpose.

You could think that building these types of connections is very difficult, or even impossible. But there is another ingredient that makes it possible for me, and it is to find my vocation and pursue it. If I pursue my vocation I’m able to feel the self-esteem that lets me love others.

But I haven’t had clear my vocation all time and since the beginning. Discovering one own vocation is a process. Many times, we don’t have clear what we are called for and we discover it in the process. And it can change over time as long as we become more aware of ourselves and the world surrounding us.

In conclusion: I have three ingredients for my own happiness: relationships, purpose, and vocation. And I think that for many are the same.