Lyfestile, Positive Post, Relationship

Improve yourselves to improve the world

In my opinion, the world needs to be changed, as someone says. Still, it is also true that believing in a perfect society where there are no social and emotional difficulties is utopian, as someone else says. After all, someone said that if you want to change the world, you first have to change yourself.
So if you don’t face all the negative situations with an attitude of personal growth, in the end, you will remain the same as always, and therefore you will not bring any benefit to the world.
I also believe that taking one’s own life is never the solution. And that words, even if they hurt like hell, are always just words, and even if they sometimes have devastating emotional effects, you have to deal with it.
And it’s only when those words won’t hurt you anymore, neither in memories nor in reality, that you can say you’ve won, that you’ve become a better person and that you’re ready to contribute to the world. Otherwise, you will remain nothing but another human being trapped in his ego or emotional limits. And a person unable to improve himself will never be able to contribute significantly to the world.

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Discussing not-believing topics with theists

Whether or not it is “right” to discuss non-believing topics with people who believe in a god or gods is a matter of personal opinion and can depend on the context and the specific individuals involved. Some people may find such discussions to be enlightening and productive, while others may find them to be divisive or offensive.

It is essential to approach any discussion about religion or belief with respect and an open mind. It’s also important to understand that people’s beliefs can be deeply personal and may be tied to their sense of identity, culture and community. Challenging or questioning those beliefs can be difficult for them.

It’s always best to have an open and respectful dialogue rather than trying to convince or impose your beliefs on someone else. And also, it is vital to be aware of your own knowledge and understanding of the topic and be ready to listen, learn and acknowledge others’ perspectives.

For example, the constitution protects freedom of religion in Italy, and the government respects this right in practice. While the Catholic Church has a strong presence in the country and many traditional customs and ceremonies reflect this, atheism is not illegal in Italy, and individuals are free to hold their own beliefs. However, as in any country, there may be some societal discrimination or prejudice against non-believers, and it’s essential to be aware of this and exercise caution. It’s also worth noting that the Catholic Church continues to be very influential in Italian society and culture and that atheism or lack of religious belief may be met with resistance or misunderstanding in some quarters.

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How can you help a friend even if you don’t feel totally able?

There is no need to feel guilty if you cannot help a friend through any problems. Everyone has their own abilities and limitations, and it is essential to do the best you can.

Either way, there are a few things you can do to help your friend even if you don’t feel fully prepared:

  • Be honest: If you don’t know how to help your friend, say it openly. He/she will appreciate your honesty.
  • Offer your support: Even if you don’t know how to solve your friend’s problems, you can still offer your support and encouragement.
  • Encourage your friend to seek help: If they need professional help, encourage them to seek psychological or legal support.
  • Give advice only when asked: Try understanding your friend’s point of view and avoid judging or giving unsolicited advice.
  • Be There: Show your friends you can listen to and support them.
  • Take care of yourself: Make sure you take care of yourself and ask for help if you need support.

Remember, the support and love of friends are critical to someone going through family problems, and your help can make all the difference, even if sometimes you don’t feel completely prepared.

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Sincerity and formality

It is not possible to be 100% ourselves at all times. Our environment, experiences, and the people around us constantly influence and shape us. Additionally, certain social norms and expectations affect how we behave and communicate. However, it’s essential to strive for authenticity and to be true to ourselves as much as possible. By being aware of these influences and making conscious choices. Can we ensure that our true selves are represented in our interactions with others?

Finding the balance between formality and sincerity can be difficult, but there are some things you can do to achieve this goal:

  1. Know your audience: it is crucial to understand who you are talking to and to adapt your language and tone accordingly.
  2. Be yourself: avoid being someone you’re not to appear more formal. Sincerity and genuineness are much more appreciated.
  3. Use appropriate language: choose the right words for the context and for your audience.
  4. Show empathy: put yourself in other people’s shoes and try understanding how they may feel. This will help you communicate more effectively.
  5. Be flexible: Adapting your communication style based on the situation is vital in finding the balance between formality and sincerity.

Remember that finding the balance is continuous and requires practice and experimentation.

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Making effective criticisms

A more critical aspect of being a good person is the ability to recognize when one’s actions are not in line with their values and to take steps to make amends. This could involve apologizing to those harmed, taking responsibility for one’s actions, and consciously attempting to change one’s behaviour in the future. Above all, it’s essential to be honest with yourself about your own behaviour and to take a critical look at your actions, being open to constructive criticism from others and trying to learn from it.

Constructive criticism is the feedback that aims to help the person improve their behaviour, skills or attitude. Some traits of constructive criticism are:

  • Specific: It addresses a particular behaviour or issue rather than general or vague statements.
  • Objective: It is based on observable facts and evidence rather than personal opinions or emotions.
  • Respectful: It is delivered in a respectful and non-judgmental manner, without personal attacks or insults.
  • Helpful: It provides specific suggestions or recommendations for improvement rather than just pointing out what is wrong.
  • Timely: It is delivered at an appropriate time and in a proper setting, rather than waiting too long or bringing it up at an inappropriate time.
  • Focused on improvement: It aims to help the person improve rather than just criticizing for the sake of it.

It’s important to note that receiving constructive criticism can be difficult, and it may be hard for the person to hear it. It’s also vital for the person giving the complaint to be aware of their own tone of voice and body language and to be sensitive to the person’s feelings.

It’s important to remember that constructive criticism is an essential tool for personal and professional growth; it can help to identify areas that need improvement and to guide the person towards positive change.

It can be difficult for some people to give constructive criticism to others, even if they can receive it themselves. There are a few reasons why this might be the case:

  • Empathy: Giving constructive criticism can be difficult because it can be hard to separate one’s feelings from those of the criticised person. If you empathize with the person and understand how they might feel when receiving criticism, it can be hard to bring yourself to deliver it.
  • Fear of Conflict: Some people may avoid giving constructive criticism because they fear it will lead to conflict or hurt feelings.
  • Lack of skills: Some people may not have the skills or knowledge to give constructive criticism. They may not know how to phrase things helpfully and respectfully, or they may not know how to give criticism without hurting the other person.
  • Fear of rejection: Some people may avoid giving constructive criticism because they fear that the other person will reject it or will not be open to it.

You can build your confidence by giving constructive criticism to address this gap. You can practice with people you trust, like friends or family members, or role-play with colleagues or friends. You can also try to educate yourself on how to give constructive criticism respectfully and helpfully and consider the other person’s perspective and feelings when giving it. You can also try to focus on helping the other person improve rather than avoiding conflict or rejection.

It’s also important to remember that giving and receiving criticism is a skill that can be learned and developed over time with practice and patience.

Understandably, your mood can affect the way you give criticism. Here are a few things you can do to address this issue:

  • Timing: Try to give criticism when you are calm and composed rather than when you are stressed or upset.
  • Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing or meditation before giving criticism to help you stay calm and focused.
  • Be prepared: Plan what you want to say and anticipate any potential objections or reactions the other person might have.
  • Be specific about what the other person did and how it affected you. Avoid generalizations and use “I” statements instead of “you” statements.
  • Be non-judgmental: Avoid using judgmental language or tone of voice when giving criticism. Instead, focus on the facts and on specific behaviours you would like to see change.
  • Be open-minded: Be open to hearing the other person’s perspective and be willing to consider their feelings and experiences when giving criticism.
  • Be supportive: Let the other person know that you care about them and are there to support them as they work on improving.

It’s also important to remember that giving criticism can be difficult, and it’s OK to take a step back and rephrase your words if you feel that your mood is affecting how you’re giving the criticism. It’s also OK to ask for some time to cool down or return to the conversation later.

Taking care of your own well-being and practising self-compassion are also essential. It’s OK to make mistakes and not get them right every time. It is necessary to learn from them and keep trying to improve.

If you give criticism and later discover that you were wrong, it’s vital to acknowledge your mistake and apologize to the person you criticized. Here are a few things you can do:

  • Take responsibility: Acknowledge your mistake and take responsibility for it. Avoid making excuses or blaming others.
  • Apologize: Apologize to the person you criticized for any harm or discomfort your criticism may have caused.
  • Make amends: Offer to make amends, such as helping to correct any damage or confusion your criticism may have caused.
  • Learn from it: Reflect on what you learned from the experience and consider how you can avoid making the same mistake in the future.

It’s also important to remember that everyone makes mistakes and that it’s not a personal failure but an opportunity to learn and grow. It’s also important to be open to feedback and to admit when you are wrong.

It’s also a good practice to try to understand the other person’s point of view and to be willing to consider their feelings and experiences when giving criticism. This can help you to avoid making mistakes in the future and to offer criticism more effectively and compassionately.

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Reasons for Arrogant thoughts

If you frequently think other people’s feelings and thoughts are stupid, it may indicate that you tend to devalue others’ perspectives and experiences. This can harm relationships and create barriers to effective communication and understanding.

There can be a few reasons why you might be thinking this way:

  • Lack of Empathy: When you lack empathy, it’s harder for you to understand and relate to others’ feelings and experiences.
  • Arrogance: Some people believe that their way of thinking is the only correct one and tend to think that other people’s thoughts and feelings are inferior.
  • Insecurity: Sometimes, when people feel insecure about their thoughts and feelings, they may devalue others’ perspectives to feel better about themselves.
  • Lack of exposure: People with limited exposure to diversity may struggle to understand others’ perspectives and label them stupid.

It’s important to remember that everyone has unique perspectives and experiences, which can be valid and valuable, even if they differ from yours. You can work on developing empathy and humility and trying to understand other people’s perspectives. You can also try to expose yourself to different cultures, people and ideas and practice active listening and open-mindedness.

It’s also important to remember that thinking this way is unhealthy and can negatively impact your relationships and well-being. If this is something you find yourself struggling with, it may be helpful to seek the help of a therapist or counsellor who can help you understand and address the underlying causes of this behaviour.

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Healthy working environment

Today, chatting with the chat of openai, we talked about many fascinating topics, which gave me interesting insight. I copied and pasted one I found very interesting about a healthy and productive environment,

Several traits can contribute to a healthy and productive work environment:

  1. Trust: A healthy work environment is built on trust, where employees feel that they can be open and honest with their colleagues and manager without fear of retribution.
  2. Respect: A healthy work environment is one where all employees are treated with respect, regardless of their position or role.
  3. Inclusion: A healthy work environment is inclusive, where diversity and differences are valued, and everyone feels welcome and included.
  4. Communication: A healthy work environment is characterized by open and honest communication, where employees feel comfortable sharing their ideas and concerns.
  5. Support: A healthy work environment is where employees feel supported by their colleagues and manager and where resources are available to help them succeed.
  6. Collaboration: A healthy work environment is one where employees are able to work together effectively and collaborate towards common goals.
  7. Growth: A healthy work environment is one where employees have opportunities to learn and grow personally and professionally.
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The meaningless crisis

I’m going through a period where everything seems meaningless. What can we hold on to when life has no meaning? Many people find meaning in family, society, religion, science, and everything that can satisfy them personally. But personal and historical facts force me to think life has no meaning. And even though I have everything I need, this is a harsh personal situation.

Even the idea of God that in the past seemed to give me so much relief now seems like God, or it doesn’t exist or doesn’t care. Too many wrong things in the history of humanity have happened and are happening today. Neither the word of Jesus Christ, about unconditional love, which I strongly believed in the past, now seem so fake to me.

The personal relationships with people and beloved ones where I thought I could find meaning feel empty, fake and moved by interests.

How can I survive this period of meaningless crisis? I think I have no solution. Just survive for the sake of living. By my side, I will try to build meaningful connections and be authentic. This is all I can and want to do. Even though this means building anything at all.

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Golden rules

Admiring a person only because they are famous is mental.
Respecting a person only because they say morally correct sentences is naive.
Following a person only because they are rich is for pimps.

Instead:

Admire people that love without consideration.
Please be sure to respect people whose acts are coherent with moral evaluations.
Follow people that inspire you to grow as a better person.

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Kindly yourselves

Inside ourselves, there are demons, the crazy ones. What happens if you unleash them?

Unleashing out demons means letting yourself be your authentic self.

Are you, who are so strong to speak loud against your neighbour, able to reveal publicly who you really are without masks?

Please, explicit yourself. Don’t be afraid or do you wanna arrive to the death unprepared?

Without facing the world for who we are there is no growth.

Are you strong enough to be the authentic self and at the same time be kind?

Or will you lose yourself in the river of eternity?

And remember, being yourself kindly amount other people is the very best satisfaction one can ever feel.

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