Many people claim that what we think about ourselves matters the most. But what matters the most is goodwill towards others, not only friends but even enemies.
This doesn’t mean others’ bad habits must enslave you. But it would be best to care about what matters in their life according to your possibilities. And caring about oneself too.
I know love doesn’t pay your bills or not? A man who knows how to love is happy. But all the world’s wealth cannot buy you happiness nor save you from death. By the way, love is all we’re required to have to succeed in life.
We should concentrate our effort and dedication on improving our way to love.
Love and pardon will save the world and ourselves. Nothing else is required. Since you have learned how to love, you reach heaven here on earth.
No effort is required. It’s a natural process that happens on its own. Yes, it has ups and downs. But we’re not alone. We’re surrounded by billions of brothers and sisters struggling all for the same purpose. How to be able to love without effort.
That’s it.
I think it’s time to postulate some thoughts based on my recent experiences.
Many people judge. And judge so easily by not giving them the time to people to explain or improve themselves.
Me too.
But we should know that even though judging is so easy, less easy is to correct our judgments or, better, understand that no judgment is correct.
We are equipped with a finite mind that never will be able to comprehend the vastity of any human being.
What we can do is vent upon something or someone unless it gives rise to a war.
For this reason, many people keep their judgements secret because they cause conflict and, above all, because they are usually limited and wrong.
If I shouldn’t believe in anything I don’t have direct experience of, I shouldn’t even believe what science says. Because I have neither witnessed nor had the intellectual tools to understand many scientific experiments.
In fact, I have faith in what science says, more precisely, what I have been told, because it is much more plausible than ancient esoteric beliefs.
But I have experience with technology because I can experience that every day. And technology is based on science.
But science is constantly evolving. And the evolution of science often presupposes invalidating explanations that were previously believed to be accurate.
In fact, even the ancients experimented with their technology, as even at the time, there was scientific progress. Still, science explained that technology with arguments that would now make us laugh.
Because even though everything is subject to refutation and science is gradually refuted. It does not mean that all explanations of nature are the same.
The enormous effort our society has made in the process of secularization has led it to construct ever more complex and articulated visions of reality based on reality, experimentation, syllogisms and logical elaboration.
And all this is also reflected in ethics, morals, society and religion. In fact, more and more groups of autonomous people, who do not adhere to any religion, party, organization, or community, are developing. Indeed we are coming to understand that from experience and study, we can deduce our model of reality and our moral rules without these being dictated to us from above or by an external entity.
This is because, until now, science, which dictated the model of reality (and this is especially true for social realities), has presented itself as dogmatic. It did not explain where the pillars that founded our ideas came from. And therefore, all the organizations of society, religious and secular, were somehow dogmatic and self-referential. (They say something like it has to do through this way because it has to do through this way).
Many of these dogmas, given as incontrovertible truths, appear for what they are: explanations given for convenience, ignorance or, worse, to take advantage of them.
But a new category of thinkers is emerging, those who question everything. Which was forbidden until some time ago.
Once the dogmas have been unmasked and understood for what they are (practically easy and comfortable truths), what can be done with the newly acquired awareness is limitless. We will be free because we will no longer have our minds darkened by those concepts we believed to be true without ever having thought about them.
The time has come to get involved and question everything.
As a choice, I choose not to join any dogmatic or self-referential community. But I prefer to join only those communities that try to build behaviour patterns based on reason (even feelings) and give more value to relationships rather than hierarchies, rules or habits.
There is no need to feel guilty if you cannot help a friend through any problems. Everyone has their own abilities and limitations, and it is essential to do the best you can.
Either way, there are a few things you can do to help your friend even if you don’t feel fully prepared:
Remember, the support and love of friends are critical to someone going through family problems, and your help can make all the difference, even if sometimes you don’t feel completely prepared.
A more critical aspect of being a good person is the ability to recognize when one’s actions are not in line with their values and to take steps to make amends. This could involve apologizing to those harmed, taking responsibility for one’s actions, and consciously attempting to change one’s behaviour in the future. Above all, it’s essential to be honest with yourself about your own behaviour and to take a critical look at your actions, being open to constructive criticism from others and trying to learn from it.
Constructive criticism is the feedback that aims to help the person improve their behaviour, skills or attitude. Some traits of constructive criticism are:
It’s important to note that receiving constructive criticism can be difficult, and it may be hard for the person to hear it. It’s also vital for the person giving the complaint to be aware of their own tone of voice and body language and to be sensitive to the person’s feelings.
It’s important to remember that constructive criticism is an essential tool for personal and professional growth; it can help to identify areas that need improvement and to guide the person towards positive change.
It can be difficult for some people to give constructive criticism to others, even if they can receive it themselves. There are a few reasons why this might be the case:
You can build your confidence by giving constructive criticism to address this gap. You can practice with people you trust, like friends or family members, or role-play with colleagues or friends. You can also try to educate yourself on how to give constructive criticism respectfully and helpfully and consider the other person’s perspective and feelings when giving it. You can also try to focus on helping the other person improve rather than avoiding conflict or rejection.
It’s also important to remember that giving and receiving criticism is a skill that can be learned and developed over time with practice and patience.
Understandably, your mood can affect the way you give criticism. Here are a few things you can do to address this issue:
It’s also important to remember that giving criticism can be difficult, and it’s OK to take a step back and rephrase your words if you feel that your mood is affecting how you’re giving the criticism. It’s also OK to ask for some time to cool down or return to the conversation later.
Taking care of your own well-being and practising self-compassion are also essential. It’s OK to make mistakes and not get them right every time. It is necessary to learn from them and keep trying to improve.
If you give criticism and later discover that you were wrong, it’s vital to acknowledge your mistake and apologize to the person you criticized. Here are a few things you can do:
It’s also important to remember that everyone makes mistakes and that it’s not a personal failure but an opportunity to learn and grow. It’s also important to be open to feedback and to admit when you are wrong.
It’s also a good practice to try to understand the other person’s point of view and to be willing to consider their feelings and experiences when giving criticism. This can help you to avoid making mistakes in the future and to offer criticism more effectively and compassionately.
If you frequently think other people’s feelings and thoughts are stupid, it may indicate that you tend to devalue others’ perspectives and experiences. This can harm relationships and create barriers to effective communication and understanding.
There can be a few reasons why you might be thinking this way:
It’s important to remember that everyone has unique perspectives and experiences, which can be valid and valuable, even if they differ from yours. You can work on developing empathy and humility and trying to understand other people’s perspectives. You can also try to expose yourself to different cultures, people and ideas and practice active listening and open-mindedness.
It’s also important to remember that thinking this way is unhealthy and can negatively impact your relationships and well-being. If this is something you find yourself struggling with, it may be helpful to seek the help of a therapist or counsellor who can help you understand and address the underlying causes of this behaviour.
I’m going through a period where everything seems meaningless. What can we hold on to when life has no meaning? Many people find meaning in family, society, religion, science, and everything that can satisfy them personally. But personal and historical facts force me to think life has no meaning. And even though I have everything I need, this is a harsh personal situation.
Even the idea of God that in the past seemed to give me so much relief now seems like God, or it doesn’t exist or doesn’t care. Too many wrong things in the history of humanity have happened and are happening today. Neither the word of Jesus Christ, about unconditional love, which I strongly believed in the past, now seem so fake to me.
The personal relationships with people and beloved ones where I thought I could find meaning feel empty, fake and moved by interests.
How can I survive this period of meaningless crisis? I think I have no solution. Just survive for the sake of living. By my side, I will try to build meaningful connections and be authentic. This is all I can and want to do. Even though this means building anything at all.
Clearly, it’s not enough having the desire to share opinions and ideas in this world.
You need to be more effective but how?
I know only a way: being truer possible.
But my reality is not aligned with the environment.
So I ask why. Am I crazy? Am I a misfit? Maybe. But I have original ideas that come from my own inside. They are seeds of my own way of thinking, my actual being.
And even if no one likes them, they are genuinely conceived.
I’m the original me; that’s enough. Other, I don’t wanna know.
I know that is a best practice not to trust only words but to base our trust upon others’ actions.
It seems easy in words. However, when we try to apply this simple principle we found ourselves overwhelmed by nasty thoughts about how, when, and why to treat people.
So our fire door to escape from becomes our unextinguishable sense of selfishness ending up not trusting anybody ever.
But how can we succeed to have nurturing relationships with others without being exploited?
This is a mystery. What I know is that if you don’t trust anyone your life is highly miserable.
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