The Wrong Judgments

I think it’s time to postulate some thoughts based on my recent experiences.

Many people judge. And judge so easily by not giving them the time to people to explain or improve themselves.

Me too.

But we should know that even though judging is so easy, less easy is to correct our judgments or, better, understand that no judgment is correct.

We are equipped with a finite mind that never will be able to comprehend the vastity of any human being.

What we can do is vent upon something or someone unless it gives rise to a war.

For this reason, many people keep their judgements secret because they cause conflict and, above all, because they are usually limited and wrong.

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The Battle Against The Self-reflection

In our society, specific values predominate, such as wealth, beauty and, superior attitude, social status. All of these values have one thing in common. They are all values that make us feel superior. So we struggle to achieve these goals because, ultimately, we want to be superior to others.

But why do we need to feel superior to others? This is connected to the image that we have of ourselves and that we want others to have of us.

We want to have an image of ourselves that satisfies us. Also, How many times have we found ourselves feeling a blind fury because someone dared to break the mirror that we find ourselves inside? How many times are we sad or, even worse, depressed when we think that our reflection is irreparably compromised? How often are we threatened because we perceive that others think something about us that we don’t like?

So what to do? I think what to do is a personal choice. Because the battle against the reflection of oneself is a battle with no holds barred. And everyone must be free to face it as they see fit. Sometimes you have to give him rope because the image of himself is so strong that sometimes we have to force him to win.

However, I believe that with a bit of back and forth, gaining more and more awareness and gaining experience, this is a battle that can be won. But why should we win it? Why don’t we just care and stay at the mercy of our reflection and what others think?

Simple, because you live badly. Prisoners in a cage that we have built ourselves. Therefore if a man wants to be free and experience true freedom, and not the illusory one which consists in thinking he is superior, he must get rid of the self-reflection.

Furthermore, if we count all the evil things that man does and has done in the name of vanity, we will understand that there is also a social reason.

And when a man gets rid of this reflection, he will see who he really is. And once he knows who he really is, he will never be able to go back. Luckily, I might add…

A new epistemology that leads to freedom

If I shouldn’t believe in anything I don’t have direct experience of, I shouldn’t even believe what science says. Because I have neither witnessed nor had the intellectual tools to understand many scientific experiments.
In fact, I have faith in what science says, more precisely, what I have been told, because it is much more plausible than ancient esoteric beliefs.
But I have experience with technology because I can experience that every day. And technology is based on science.
But science is constantly evolving. And the evolution of science often presupposes invalidating explanations that were previously believed to be accurate.
In fact, even the ancients experimented with their technology, as even at the time, there was scientific progress. Still, science explained that technology with arguments that would now make us laugh.
Because even though everything is subject to refutation and science is gradually refuted. It does not mean that all explanations of nature are the same.

The enormous effort our society has made in the process of secularization has led it to construct ever more complex and articulated visions of reality based on reality, experimentation, syllogisms and logical elaboration.

And all this is also reflected in ethics, morals, society and religion. In fact, more and more groups of autonomous people, who do not adhere to any religion, party, organization, or community, are developing. Indeed we are coming to understand that from experience and study, we can deduce our model of reality and our moral rules without these being dictated to us from above or by an external entity.

This is because, until now, science, which dictated the model of reality (and this is especially true for social realities), has presented itself as dogmatic. It did not explain where the pillars that founded our ideas came from. And therefore, all the organizations of society, religious and secular, were somehow dogmatic and self-referential. (They say something like it has to do through this way because it has to do through this way).

Many of these dogmas, given as incontrovertible truths, appear for what they are: explanations given for convenience, ignorance or, worse, to take advantage of them.

But a new category of thinkers is emerging, those who question everything. Which was forbidden until some time ago.

Once the dogmas have been unmasked and understood for what they are (practically easy and comfortable truths), what can be done with the newly acquired awareness is limitless. We will be free because we will no longer have our minds darkened by those concepts we believed to be true without ever having thought about them.

The time has come to get involved and question everything.

As a choice, I choose not to join any dogmatic or self-referential community. But I prefer to join only those communities that try to build behaviour patterns based on reason (even feelings) and give more value to relationships rather than hierarchies, rules or habits.

A bit of my history sprouting from some questions

Why is work so hard? Why is it so difficult to enter the world of work? And relocate when you get fired? Is it like this only in Italy, or is it a global trend? Perhaps in some countries, it is felt more or less than in others.

In any case, the road to work and professional success is among the most difficult. At least for those who don’t have the road paved. We need to acquire fundamental skills that are helpful and can be spent in the world of work. And although the studies give the foundations, it is necessary to practice to acquire them. It was like this: when I was an entry-level, I worked as an internal for a long time. At first, I was always wrong, I didn’t understand any, and I was more of a burden than an asset. If I think about all the harmful code I’ve done, I was fortunate to find someone who gave me this opportunity. By the way, I did the internship late in life, so I had to hear from many people that I was a failure. But I didn’t get knocked down. A bit of unconsciousness, though. However, I pursued my career as a software engineer because that’s what I want to do.

Then I found my first employment contract. Only the pay was low, and the frustration was high. I didn’t have many opportunities to apply my ideas, and there was a lot to learn.

But the desire to learn has never left me, and neither has the desire to challenge myself.

Now I’ve landed on TicketSms, where my desire to learn and get involved is genuinely valued and appreciated, even from an economic point of view.

After so many years, I can consider myself fully satisfied. Because for me, work is an important thing. It is a fundamental part of my life since it is based on my passion: technology and personal relationships.

With this, I don’t mean that I spend my life working. There is also room for other things besides work in one’s life. But having a good job carried out with passion is a lucky one (which I have also conquered) that not everyone has. And I have to be thankful for that.

How can you help a friend even if you don’t feel totally able?

There is no need to feel guilty if you cannot help a friend through any problems. Everyone has their own abilities and limitations, and it is essential to do the best you can.

Either way, there are a few things you can do to help your friend even if you don’t feel fully prepared:

• Be honest: If you don’t know how to help your friend, say it openly. He/she will appreciate your honesty.

• Offer your support: Even if you don’t know how to solve your friend’s problems, you can still offer your support and encouragement.

• Encourage your friend to seek help: If they need professional help, encourage them to seek psychological or legal support.

• Give advice only when asked: Try understanding your friend’s point of view and avoid judging or giving unsolicited advice.

• Be There: Show your friends you can listen to and support them.

• Take care of yourself: Make sure you take care of yourself and ask for help if you need support.

Remember, the support and love of friends are critical to someone going through family problems, and your help can make all the difference, even if sometimes you don’t feel completely prepared.

Creativity

Creativity can be seen as a complex and unpredictable process, which can vary depending on the circumstances and personal conditions. However, some things can be done to stimulate creativity and facilitate the generation of new ideas:

1. An open and curious mindset: seeking new experiences and information can help see things differently and generate new ideas.
2. Making connections between things: thinking divergently and seeking relationships between different ideas can help generate new ideas.
3. Experimenting and making mistakes: being willing to try new things and make mistakes can help discover new possibilities and solutions.
4. Being motivated and focused: having a solid goal and motivation can help focus on a project and generate new ideas.
5. Forcing things makes everything worse, so just relax, enjoy the process, get your time and find your way.

Remember that creativity is a dynamic process and not always predictable. Still, with the right tools and mindset, you can stimulate your creativity and find new ideas and solutions.

Sincerity and formality

It is not possible to be 100% ourselves at all times. Our environment, experiences, and the people around us constantly influence and shape us. Additionally, certain social norms and expectations affect how we behave and communicate. However, it’s essential to strive for authenticity and to be true to ourselves as much as possible. By being aware of these influences and making conscious choices. Can we ensure that our true selves are represented in our interactions with others?

Finding the balance between formality and sincerity can be difficult, but there are some things you can do to achieve this goal:

1. Know your audience: it is crucial to understand who you are talking to and to adapt your language and tone accordingly.
2. Be yourself: avoid being someone you’re not to appear more formal. Sincerity and genuineness are much more appreciated.
3. Use appropriate language: choose the right words for the context and for your audience.
4. Show empathy: put yourself in other people’s shoes and try understanding how they may feel. This will help you communicate more effectively.
5. Be flexible: Adapting your communication style based on the situation is vital in finding the balance between formality and sincerity.

Remember that finding the balance is continuous and requires practice and experimentation.

Reasons for Arrogant thoughts

If you frequently think other people’s feelings and thoughts are stupid, it may indicate that you tend to devalue others’ perspectives and experiences. This can harm relationships and create barriers to effective communication and understanding.

There can be a few reasons why you might be thinking this way:

• Lack of Empathy: When you lack empathy, it’s harder for you to understand and relate to others’ feelings and experiences.
• Arrogance: Some people believe that their way of thinking is the only correct one and tend to think that other people’s thoughts and feelings are inferior.
• Insecurity: Sometimes, when people feel insecure about their thoughts and feelings, they may devalue others’ perspectives to feel better about themselves.
• Lack of exposure: People with limited exposure to diversity may struggle to understand others’ perspectives and label them stupid.

It’s important to remember that everyone has unique perspectives and experiences, which can be valid and valuable, even if they differ from yours. You can work on developing empathy and humility and trying to understand other people’s perspectives. You can also try to expose yourself to different cultures, people and ideas and practice active listening and open-mindedness.

It’s also important to remember that thinking this way is unhealthy and can negatively impact your relationships and well-being. If this is something you find yourself struggling with, it may be helpful to seek the help of a therapist or counsellor who can help you understand and address the underlying causes of this behaviour.

Balancing adherence to one’s values with free-will

It is true that values can be perceived differently from person to person and that what is considered necessary can vary according to individual culture, upbringing and experience.

Furthermore, while some values are shared by many spiritual and philosophical traditions, such as love and compassion, their interpretation and application can vary greatly.

We have the right to choose how to live our lives and what values to follow. Generally, it is important to respect different opinions and interpretations of values and try to understand the reasons behind them. At the same time, even though it can seem important to try to live according to your values and to encourage others to do the same (always respecting differences), free will is an essential principle in most philosophies and religions.

Respecting different opinions and interpretations of values is a universal principle which promotes tolerance and mutual understanding. Indeed, accepting differences and understanding the motivations behind the different perspectives are fundamental for peaceful coexistence between people and cultures.

In general, even though living according to one’s values can be seen as vital because it allows us to be consistent with ourselves and to live an authentic life (for this reason, it is equally important to respect the choices and opinions of others, even if they do not coincide with ours) and that consistency between one’s values and one’s actions can be seen as vital because it helps us to live authentically and coherently with ourselves, we should think it is true that following one’s inclinations and instincts can be just as crucial to living a satisfying and fulfilling life.

Balancing consistency and following one’s inclinations can be critical to living a balanced and authentic life. At the same time, it is essential to be flexible and willing to change one’s values and opinions based on new experiences and knowledge.

In summary, there are no unambiguous and definitive answers to these issues. It always depends on the individual situations and individuals; finding a balance that satisfies one’s well-being and that of others is vital.

Gaining Free Will

There are so many wrong sides and aspects of reality, so those who even aspire or hope that something gets better should be considered crazy.
If humanity cannot cure itself, who can do it instead?

My answer is to do what I freely want wherever it leads me. But this raises a bunch of questions:

• What do I freely want to do?
• Why do I want what I want?
• Where it leads me?
• Am I free?

These questions lean on the mystery of free will. For many centuries philosophers and theologists have tried to answer these questions.

Everyone has underlined some particular aspect of the issue and faced it in a specific manner. Still, there is no absolute and definitive answer, we can debate as long as we want, but the answer is absolutely personal and subjective. Because the concept of free will implies the idea of free thoughts. And if a man is not allowed to think in a way he judges as correct, he is not free at all.

But to have free thoughts, it’s needed to free our minds and heart from many biases. But removing biases is the most challenging task.

Often, it requires us to strike the fundamental of our being and give up all our superstitions.

For these reasons, we need to support each other. This is a goal we have to achieve collectively, despite race, religion, beliefs or nationality

I unknow

It takes a lot of attention to evaluating how things actually are.

Perception is elusive, awareness rare, and the idea of the world volatile.

We cannot understand everything, so what should we pay attention to? It is too personal and subjective a question to be able to give a definitive answer.

Everyone has their own path.

I have decided to value what I feel and don’t suffocate it. I have the right to feel and think what I think. But this is true for me. For others, it may not be the correct attitude. Everyone must evaluate themselves. It takes a meta-cognition that allows us to distinguish it.

A path to knowledge could consist in destructuring what one knows until one reaches the point where the awareness of the wideness of own ignorance arises.

Improve yourselves to improve the world

In my opinion, the world needs to be changed, as someone says. Still, it is also true that believing in a perfect society where there are no social and emotional difficulties is utopian, as someone else says. After all, someone said that if you want to change the world, you first have to change yourself.
So if you don’t face all the negative situations with an attitude of personal growth, in the end, you will remain the same as always, and therefore you will not bring any benefit to the world.
I also believe that taking one’s own life is never the solution. And that words, even if they hurt like hell, are always just words, and even if they sometimes have devastating emotional effects, you have to deal with it.
And it’s only when those words won’t hurt you anymore, neither in memories nor in reality, that you can say you’ve won, that you’ve become a better person and that you’re ready to contribute to the world. Otherwise, you will remain nothing but another human being trapped in his ego or emotional limits. And a person unable to improve himself will never be able to contribute significantly to the world.

Discussing not-believing topics with theists

Whether or not it is “right” to discuss non-believing topics with people who believe in a god or gods is a matter of personal opinion and can depend on the context and the specific individuals involved. Some people may find such discussions to be enlightening and productive, while others may find them to be divisive or offensive.

It is essential to approach any discussion about religion or belief with respect and an open mind. It’s also important to understand that people’s beliefs can be deeply personal and may be tied to their sense of identity, culture and community. Challenging or questioning those beliefs can be difficult for them.

It’s always best to have an open and respectful dialogue rather than trying to convince or impose your beliefs on someone else. And also, it is vital to be aware of your own knowledge and understanding of the topic and be ready to listen, learn and acknowledge others’ perspectives.

For example, the constitution protects freedom of religion in Italy, and the government respects this right in practice. While the Catholic Church has a strong presence in the country and many traditional customs and ceremonies reflect this, atheism is not illegal in Italy, and individuals are free to hold their own beliefs. However, as in any country, there may be some societal discrimination or prejudice against non-believers, and it’s essential to be aware of this and exercise caution. It’s also worth noting that the Catholic Church continues to be very influential in Italian society and culture and that atheism or lack of religious belief may be met with resistance or misunderstanding in some quarters.